A Letter to Someone I Don’t Really Know

Dear you,

Hi. I’m not sure if you remember that random girl who texted you about the shops you visit for lace and some other sewing materials. Or that random person who you chatted with about some museum. Uhm, that’s me. I’ve been following your Multiply for quite some time, and drooled over your really really pretty creations. Heck, you even inspired me to make my own accessories, which I’ve been doing for quite some time now. One day I’ll be as good as you, maybe even better (lol).

I look at your pics and fangirl about how cute you are. Add the fact that you make most of the things you wear. No, I’m not a lesbian or stalker or whatev - I just like how you make your stuff and how they suit you really well.

I’ve recently read some of your personal posts, either on Multiply or Plurk (yep, I’m one of your plurk buddies) - and I feel sad about you. You’ve been posting about how jealous you get whenever you see your boyfriend’s ex and rant about not being as pretty as her or not being at par with that girl. Now I see posts of you considering changing your hairstyle, changing your ways, then giving up your most beloved hobbies. This disturbed me. Why change yourself this much for a guy?

Let me tell you this: why would your guy stay with you if he hates anything about you? Were you ever asked to change because he doesn’t like the things that you do? What made you think that his ex is better than you? I tell you, your boyfriend loves you because of the way you are right now. He loves you because of your cute image, your attitude, your activities… He loves YOU. Not his ex.

Well, we all have to change at some point when we’re in a relationship. We change some things about ourselves to make the relationship better. We have to sacrifice things, maybe change our lifestyles a little. But never, never change who you are.

How can I tell? I’ve been with my guy for almost six years. We had our ups and downs, went through hell (lol, I remember our first few chaotic months) and back. We’ve been jealous of other people, but never used this reason to drastically change ourselves. We accept the things that makes us us, try to change bad habits, and do our best for a bright future together.

I don’t know about you. I don’t even know the whole story. I just wish you’d come to your senses soon before it’s too late. We all hate having regrets right?

Anyway, this is just a little piece of my mind.

Lovelots,

Madz

(PS. I might change some stuff on this post later, since I did it in a hurry and my mind’s a little fuzzy right now)